A FEARLESS PARADE

Note: “Dziadzia” is a diminutive term that our family used for the Polish dziadek (grandfather). As children, we pronounced it “ja-ja.”

My grandfather could not fly, or leap over tall buildings with a single bound, but I would not be surprised if one day I heard a story told that he accomplished those feats and more. Watson Burdalski was a legend in the Polish Whitman Park section of Camden, New Jersey, in the 1950’s. I heard that Dziadzia once swam across the treacherous Delaware River to Philadelphia. He was an acrobat who could pop his joints in and out at will. He was an enforcer not only for the mob, but also for a small Polish National Church congregation that was being bullied by loan sharks. Dziadzia did not belong to the church, but, like Superman, he came to the aid of anyone in the neighborhood that had need of his tough guy exterior and strong arm. The priest who told me the story assured me that there were many more stories like his. 

            “Your Dziadzia was a legend in Camden,” he said. “He was a great man.”

            Some of the legends have a sour note. Watsie, as he was known in the Polish section of Camden, spoke his mind, freely and loudly. He berated customers who came to his grocery shop with a competitor’s bag in hand. He yelled at people–or so I have heard. I don’t remember any yelling. In my mind, any loud or harsh words I may have heard him utter were well-deserved by the recipient. I idolized him and felt protected by him, as though I had someone on my side who was afraid of nothing. 

            One warm October evening in 1960, I presented him with my first report card.  After closing his produce store, Dziadzia took me on a celebratory tour of the other shops along Mt. Ephraim Avenue, introducing his genius–his first grandchild, of course she is a genius! — granddaughter to his fellow merchants. The first stop was Rossner’s Shoe Store next door. Heads nodding solemnly, Mr. and Mrs. Rossner approved of my grades. Next, we walked across the street to the dress shop. As I tried on a frilly red dress in the makeshift dressing room in the storage area, I heard Dziadzia bragging about my straight “A’s.” I poked my head out of the curtain and called to him. 

            “I didn’t get straight A’s,” I said. “I got…” 

            He cut me off with a wave of his hand and turned back to speculating with his fellow merchant about my future as a doctor or president. I emerged in a fluff of crinkly red tiers and was ordered to parade up and down the narrow store aisle. After the dress was modeled and packaged, Dziadzia and I capped off the celebration with a chocolate ice cream soda at Chris’s Sweet Shop.

            We formed a mini-parade that evening–Dziadzia strutting along Mt. Ephraim Avenue, his chest puffed out like a proud peacock, cigar clenched in his teeth, Stetson hat on his head, and little Debbie hopping alongside, solemnly attempting to match his stride. 

            Perhaps, I should stop here and mention that Watson Burdalski had lost a leg to diabetes. He took those strides wearing a heavy, wooden, artificial leg. The prothesis was anchored with bulky leather straps. 

            Having no right leg did not stop Dziadzia from driving, even though handicapped-equipped cars were yet to be invented.  He rigged his standard shift ’50’s Chevy with a broomstick and wooden block and somehow worked all three pedals with that contraption and his left leg. One August day, he arrived to pick me up for an outing, and my mother told me to get in the back seat. She was nervous for my safety in the front seat. But Dziadzia waved a hand at her worries.

            “Get in the front,” he ordered me.

            I looked at him, then at my mother, who shook her head no and mouthed the words “back seat,” then back at him.

             I got in the front. After we turned the corner and escaped my mother’s eyes, he handed me the broomstick and taught me how to push the gas pedal while he worked the shift and brake pedals. 

            From Dziadzia I learned never to be frightened of scars or loss. He taught me to keep moving, no matter what life tries to take away. From him, I learned to treasure the “A’s” of life and celebrate them, even if life’s report card contains lower grades. Sometimes I catch a whiff of a cigar, and I laugh at the memory of our fearless parade. 

14 thoughts on “A FEARLESS PARADE

  1. Oh my, I would have loved to know him. He sounds like a man of his own convictions, strong and assured. Just love that you have this vivid memory of you dziadzia. I never knew either my grandfather or father so a male figure in my memories is vacant but I can feel the love and admiration you had for him in your beautiful writing, thank you for sharing him.

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  2. Great, great story Deb!. To have such vivid memories of your grandfather is priceless! He sounded like a genuine character,who loved his family!. Good one Deb!

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  3. Very good Deb. I remember that wooden leg he always wanted us to knock on it. Then that cigar always in his mouth. He scared us sometimes but we knew he loved us.

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  4. Deb…he was bigger than life. I remember wearing his wooden leg….puffing on his cigars…even sipping his drink! Hanging out in the store was always fun.
    He left us way too soon!

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  5. Deb
    Thanks for sharing this side of the family tree. Great memories in a time of negative thoughts and people. Keep up the positive stories.

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  6. Great story. I was just shy of 4 years old but I do recall sitting on the floor of that Camden house, next to his wooden leg, as he sat in his big chair smoking a cigar. Could be the earliest recollection of anything in my entire life. He seemed larger than life, a true “man’s man”. Well said, cousin.

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